Why do I feel anxious and overwhelmed after having a baby?

Bringing a baby can leave you feeling anxious and overwhelmed (about 80% of all women will feel this way up to about 2 weeks postpartum). You might be wondering why you feel this way, what factors contribute to these feelings, and if its normal! In this post, we’ll explore the biological, psychological, social, and environmental aspects that can influence your emotional well-being after having a baby.

Biological Factors

Hormones

After childbirth, your body undergoes the most significant hormonal shift of your life. The levels of reproductive hormones such as estrogen and progesterone drop sharply. These hormones are closely tied to mood regulation, and their sudden decrease can result in feelings of anxiety and sadness. Additionally, oxytocin, known as the "love hormone," peaks at the time of delivery to help with bonding and milk production. However, it can also contribute to obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)-like symptoms, making you overly concerned about your baby’s well-being.

Sleep Changes

Sleep is crucial for emotional resilience. Of course as a brand new mom you will face significant sleep deprivation. Poor sleep exacerbates feelings of anxiety and depression. At Bloom, we like to think of sleep as a resiliency blanket; without enough of it, you’re more vulnerable to emotional distress.

Psychological Factors

The period of Matrescence (which includes pregnancy and the postpartum phase) is a time of heightened distress for many women. This period involves significant emotional, physical, and lifestyle changes that can be overwhelming, whilst having to take care of a new dependent human.

Identity Shift

Becoming a mother represents a profound identity shift. You transition from seeing yourself as an individual to seeing yourself as a mother. This shift can be challenging, particularly if you were previously confident and competent in your roles. As a new mother, you are learning everything from scratch, which can be frustrating and anxiety-inducing.

Perfectionism

If you are a perfectionist, you might struggle when you become a new mother because of the steep learning curve. No amount of reading or classes will fully prepare you for what’s in store. The unpredictability and constant change inherent in caring for a newborn can be unbearable for someone who craves control and certainty.

Introversion or Loneliness

On the one hand- if you’re an introvert, the demands of motherhood can be particularly draining. As a new mother, you often lack the solitude you need to recharge, which can lead to increased stress and anxiety. On the other hand- the postpartum experience can be a very lonely one. As we know, feeling alone can increase feelings of overwhelm.

Social and Environmental Factors

Responsibility Load

Motherhood comes with a tremendous increase in responsibility. The constant care required by a newborn can leave you feeling overwhelmed and stretched thin.

Support Network

The presence or absence of a support network can significantly impact your emotional well-being. Having family and friends to help with baby care, provide emotional support, and offer practical assistance can make a big difference in how you feel.

Finances and Employment

Financial strain and concerns about employment can add to your stress. The costs associated with a new baby, potential loss of income, or the need to return to work quickly can weigh heavily on your mind.

Relationship Dynamics

The dynamics between you and your partner often shift after the arrival of a baby. You might find that your priorities change, which can affect your relationship. Additionally, your priorities and available time will shift after having a baby, which may impact your friendships leading you to feel anxious.

By addressing the biological, psychological, and social factors contributing to your feelings, you can take steps toward a healthier and happier postpartum experience. Understanding the basics of the multifaceted reasons behind your feelings of anxiety and overwhelm after giving birth can help you address them more effectively. If you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions, know that you're not alone and that help is available. At Bloom, we specialize in perinatal care and are here to support you through this challenging time. Remember, reaching out for help is a sign of strength. If you or someone you know is struggling, don't hesitate to contact us for the support you need.